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In memoriam
Yariv Alter Fin

August 31, 2007

'I' by Yariv Alterfin
‘I’ an image poem by Yariv Alter Fin

Yariv Alter Fin
b. 1968 - d. 2007

Yariv died on Tuesday in Tel Aviv. My deepest sympathies to his family and friends.
We are devastated.

Yariv was a brilliant artist and designer who never ceased to inspire and wonder why and ‘i’ and why.
He enjoyed copious amounts of parsley in his chicken soup. More than anyone else. It was kind of ridiculous.

You are missed, Yarivele.

Yariv Alterfin, passport
‘Travelling is necessary, living is not’ by Yariv Alter Fin, image used most unfortunately without permission

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50 Comments »

  1. This is shocking.
    Yariv was one of the nicest and friendliest people I’ve ever met.
    He trained and inspired a whole generation on the Rietveld Academy with never-ending enthousiasm.
    I hope he died in peace.
    May you rest in peace, Yariv.

    Comment by Rob Meerman — August 31, 2007 @ 12:24

  2. This is very, very sad.

    Comment by debra — August 31, 2007 @ 14:55

  3. yariv was one of the people i loved the most on this planet. he’s going to be missed, to say the least.

    Comment by shai — August 31, 2007 @ 22:59

  4. I only can remember your smile.
    You were always nice and kind to me.
    It will take me some time to understand what happened…

    I am very sorry for I never could think you had such a pain..

    I just can wish you went to the place where you can rest for while.
    What I can do for you from now on is… To live my life untill the end.

    So, can you wait for me there? One day we meet again!

    Neshikot,

    Gomeifuku wo moushiagemasu.
    namuamidabutsu…

    Comment by Junko Murakawa — September 1, 2007 @ 0:48

  5. What sad news. He was such a sweetheart.

    Comment by Kristi — September 1, 2007 @ 13:19

  6. Impossible to find meaning in death. I can’t find it.

    Comment by debra — September 1, 2007 @ 13:40

  7. I still can’t understand this tragedy.
    The world has lost a great inspirator and lovable friend.
    Yariv always put himself aside to help his art students in their technical and philosophical struggles.
    He is missed, and will be so even more when people like myself start to grasp this loss.

    Comment by Jonas — September 1, 2007 @ 19:41

  8. thank you yariv for things past and for those things you planted in us that will only really come to fruition in the future.

    will miss you

    d

    Comment by daniel — September 2, 2007 @ 20:57

  9. Here, then is a great mystery. For you who love the little prince, nothing in the universe can be the same

    i miss you yarivi

    Comment by ramski — September 3, 2007 @ 8:40

  10. This is so very sad. He was always so enthousiastic and his smile and his kindness were inspiring. I was always amazed how much he knew about so many things, and had a way of passing his knowledge with simplicity, humbleness, joy. He was my mentor at the final exams at the Rietveld Academy, and i will always be grateful for all he did for me.
    Yariv, may you rest in peace.

    Comment by Mauri — September 3, 2007 @ 9:37

  11. Yariv left this earth.
    People are sad and shocked. I thank you for holding on to us so long.

    An admirer.

    Comment by Anonymous — September 3, 2007 @ 12:27

  12. He could give so much strength and motivation, warmth and deep concern. One of a kind and one of the most dearest and open-hearted people to meet and in your life … We will miss you so much !

    Comment by Springer|Parker — September 3, 2007 @ 15:13

  13. Thank you Yarif,

    for being a great teacher.

    xxx

    Comment by Irma — September 3, 2007 @ 16:54

  14. love you and miss you
    brother
    its so painful
    see you next round
    kitty

    Comment by kitty — September 3, 2007 @ 18:13

  15. Yariv, you never cease to surprise me
    I will miss you

    Comment by marc — September 4, 2007 @ 14:52

  16. oh no.

    Comment by galleo — September 4, 2007 @ 15:24

  17. Last time I saw Yariv, it was at the film museum. I was late for the film and I had walked inside in the dark. I managed to find an empty seat next to someone. Yariv was on the other side of this someone and he recognized me in the dark, although I had seen him in maybe 4 years or more and we knew each other very little. He leaned over to me, it took me five seconds to recognize him, and he said very kindly “hé, you must have walked in the wrong film, this one has started an hour ago”. I thanked him, and went out to see my film.
    I can’t remember which film he was seeing…
    I will miss him very much.
    Next time I walk inside the wrong film, who will gently care for my mistake?

    Comment by Martine — September 4, 2007 @ 16:19

  18. Scenes of friendship.

    1. Coloseum Club, tel aviv. 1984. The air is filled with depeche mode, Bauhaus, new order and lots of hormones and confusion. Tel aviv is there for the taking. Too much of the lebanon war and macho local boredom while UK is raging with all the sweets we craved for. We were poised to change and question it all. Brake the suffocating circle. I noticed yariv and eyal and ifaat and immidiatly felt an attraction. Tel aviv was soap compared with their hard core Hulon appearence rebelious spirit and style. I hovered around Yariv, sensing the power he possesed over his surroundings. He was a Magus, an Urban sourcerer to be approached with caution. I stayed away, left with a sense of thrill and anticipation. Life will never be the same. I have found my soul brother. Endless possibilities were about to unfold themselves.

    Comment by Ori — September 4, 2007 @ 17:40

  19. thanx for the privilege of getting to know
    you

    love

    dror

    Comment by dror — September 5, 2007 @ 2:21

  20. We got this terrible news in Japan (Ogaki) where we are right now. It came like an earthquake, unexpected and we don’t know what to do to lighten the shock.

    Yariv and I were very close friends a long time ago from 1992 till about 1998. We did not have much contact the last 10 years which I regret very much.
    I have such good memories of the time being with Yariv. We made lots of music and even performed music in several places in Amsterdam. We also made a great cd-rom together called the park4dtv cdrom which was a great project. We were also living together for a while.

    I once said to Yariv: Hey, did you notice we look very much the same? Yariv said: Yes, we could be two brothers! Later we found out that we both used to dress up like the lead singer of the band KISS when we were about 14 years old? Yariv had a picture of him dressed like KISS in Tel Aviv and I had a picture of me dressed the same but in Holland. We found out that we had a lot of things in common that we decided to make an artwork of the KISS pictures so we made a lightbox with on one side Yariv’s picture and the other side mine. A double portait of two young boys wanting to be a pop star. The work was later shown in Hoorn in de Garage Gallery. I still have the lightbox and it’s always been an important object for me. It showed how much we were connected together already when we didn’t even knew each other and where both living in different places with different cultures.

    Yariv went to China a couple of months ago and had a true Asian experience which is very special. Now I am in Japan also having the true Asian experience and I realize that we probably must have been thru more same experiences without even knowing about it. Still after years I feel strongly connected to Yariv and I will miss him very very much.

    Comment by Jasper — September 5, 2007 @ 8:54

  21. I heard the news last week and could’t believe it. I just got to know Yariv the last 2-3 years and was amazed by his energy and teaching qualities. Knowledge, incredible enthousiasm, taking his time, giving support in several ways and always willing to give positive feedback. He was closely involved in Radio Rietveld. Only later started to know him better by meeting outside the academy at Fabrice’s Pesach Party or in the Rietveld Jordaan dwellings. I find out Yariv inspired a lot of people next to myself. Let’s really do something in our lives with this experience of having known him. Yariv, thanks for everything.

    Comment by Hans — September 6, 2007 @ 15:41

  22. i loved you more then my life
    it was long long time ago
    now i miss you so much
    it will be for long long time we will not be

    Comment by long ago — September 15, 2007 @ 17:50

  23. Yariv could You please come back!

    Comment by Tuija — September 15, 2007 @ 21:34

  24. An invitation to all of Yariv\’s friends to visit in New Zealand at their leisure. The ones I met and the ones I did not yet meet. k -dot- geiringer -at- photonzcorp -dot- com 442 Scenic Drive, Waiatarua, Waitakere City, New Zealand.

    What more can I say.

    Comment by Karl Geiringer — September 20, 2007 @ 4:58

  25. It’s a month now and i guess i slowly start to realize you are not with us anymore, yet you are so alive in my heart and mind. Miss you Yariv!
    I had twice a confrontation with your death today and i cried. I know what you would say right now: “at least you are feeling, that’s very good!”

    Comment by miss — September 29, 2007 @ 0:55

  26. you sent me a newyear greeting once; A Brand New You. I liked that. So Long Yariv!

    Comment by roland — November 6, 2007 @ 13:04

  27. Words fail me.
    This planet has lost one true human being.
    All the best for this journey you are on now, the one you were so curious about.
    Thank you, Yariv, for being you.

    Comment by fleiter — November 17, 2007 @ 1:31

  28. Thank You Debra for this site and
    Thank You all for adding notes and words.It is a big comfort to join your feelings. And thank You Yariv for Your Love.
    I know now that you are on the way to
    pure love, like we all.

    I forgive You.

    Comment by Tuija Asta Järvenpää — November 25, 2007 @ 18:44

  29. 1st attempt.

    04-12-07

    The year is almost over;

    And so or perhaps so the pain thickness these days. 2007 cannot just pass by. But “time” is pushing and pushing onwards.

    I write this for/to you. O Yariv.

    I know you can feel our words. So 1st of all I don’t miss you. You are with me every day, but that I guess you know.
    I am not sure if I am mad but I so wish I could have held your hand; given you my awkward strength.
    I love you, but that you know as well.

    A very unique thing, love is. Still am happy we have a long way to go. Hopefully make you interested/proud in what I do. Lately I get this strength or warm believe you are looking over me. Or at least I find myself calling for you ‘on my ways’.

    Want to cry or grab or see your face.

    Am trying my hardest to feel more and do at the same time. I think it is possible.
    Yours,
    x

    Comment by - for you — December 4, 2007 @ 5:53

  30. 1st attempt.

    04-12-07

    The year is almost over;

    And so or perhaps so the pain thickness these days.
    2007 cannot just pass by. But “time” is pushing and pushing onwards.

    I write this for/to you. O Yariv.

    I know you can feel our words. So 1st of all I don’t miss you. You are with me every day but that I guess you know. I am not sure if I am mad but I so wish I could have held your hand; given you my awkward strength. I love you, but that you know as well.

    A very unique thing, love is. Still am happy we have a long way to go. Hopefully make you interested/proud in what I do. Lately I get this strength or warm believe you are looking over me. Or at least I find myself calling for you ‘on my ways’.

    Want to cry or grab or see your face.

    Am trying my hardest to feel more and do at the same time. I think it is possible.
    Yours,
    x

    Comment by for you — December 11, 2007 @ 20:26

  31. 2nd

    No more music for you. Or do you still hear it through us. Jesus Yariv.
    You pulled it off. You always wanted to be somewhat of a magician. You talked about extended presence once. Now you are it. You are gone but still so here. More than you ever wished for.

    I think what I feel almost every day is “miss you” or is it just you running through my thoughts…because it is not always sad…it is sometimes a thought or a small talk in the middle of the day.
    You said, one must take care of oneself when one is alone. Did you?
    I do. Every day.
    And perhaps also thanks to you I try even harder not to be/feel alone. It actually feels good.
    I’ll play you some of the songs I know you liked…all depending on the day.
    And it’s the 1st time I feel like coming to visit you. I know you are not there…but there, is where what you were are.
    I hope you have a good day today.
    x

    Comment by for you — December 24, 2007 @ 12:33

  32. 2nd

    No more music for you. Or do you still hear it through us. Jesus Yariv.

    You pulled it off. You always wanted to be somewhat of a magician. You talked about extended presence once. Now you are it. You are gone but still so here. More than you ever wished for.

    I think what I feel almost every day is “miss you” or is it just you running through my thoughts…because it is not always sad…it is sometimes a thought or a small talk in the middle of the day.
    You said, one must take care of oneself when one is alone. Did you?
    I do. Every day.
    And perhaps also thanks to you I try even harder not to be/feel alone. It actually feels good.

    I’ll play you some of the songs I know you liked…all depending on the day.
    And it’s the 1st time I feel like coming to visit you. I know you are not there…but there, is where what you were are.

    I hope you have a good day today.
    x

    Comment by for you — January 1, 2008 @ 14:33

  33. is anyone still out there?
    i miss him.

    Comment by for you — March 25, 2008 @ 0:21

  34. hag sameach

    Comment by t — April 20, 2008 @ 0:43

  35. I miss you Yariv

    Comment by Jenni — April 21, 2008 @ 12:41

  36. It’s funny, I only celebrated Pesach with Yariv once. But it was the first time that I’d celebrated it in my own home.

    This year was also a year of firsts, but again in my own home with friends, and I couldn’t stop thinking about Yarivele. I’m sure that many people had the experience of Yariv popping in and out of their minds…

    L’chaim Yariv.

    Comment by debra — April 21, 2008 @ 13:12

  37. Impulsively you, I guess. Still, I wish you had made some phone-calls first, I’m sure I or someone else could have come up with a very good reason to try 2008.

    Or maybe you were just too lazy to take the stairs down.

    Anyway, I am quite devastated, this is not the place I had in mind to talk to you again. I was thinking more down the line of a dark Amsterdam cafe with a good or lousy glass of wine. Well, hello to all of you who loved Yariv. Maybe we could have a YAF reunion some time?

    Comment by Esther — May 27, 2008 @ 15:34

  38. yarivi,

    another friday night. i remember we spent many of them together at home. i wanted to go out and you kept saying: “why going out ? people are just going out to find somebody to sit at home with - so why going out ?”. well yes, you are right.

    the sun shines on your grave. 28 degrees today. pretty warm. you said: “i hope i will never be buried in the netherlands in the cold mud, i´m scared of that. i want to be buried in the dry and warm earth of israel”.

    i remember walking on the beach of tel aviv to jaffa. your restlessness. your white and freckeld back in the sunlight. i was always surprised how soft it felt. you told me you broke your wishbone when you were born. your sweaty hand in mine. if i had only known you better.

    i wonder what are you up to tonight. another friday night.

    Comment by schatz — June 7, 2008 @ 2:04

  39. probably staying at home.

    Comment by schatz — June 7, 2008 @ 2:09

  40. yaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaariv!

    ze kohev
    she ata ohev

    ve ze

    kohev

    Comment by Asaf — June 14, 2008 @ 19:57

  41. almost a year.

    a week ago i read an Internet correspondence we had last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June. last June.

    and now, here we face, all your loved ones, that a year has gone by.

    i can’t even use the word “still”. i mean i can’t say: “a year has gone by and ’still’ the pain or sorrow or confusion or sadness or un-graspable sensation remains. i cannot say still because i do not think time has any relevance to the feelings that are left with this departure of yours.

    and yet i do trust time, to make it feel different as it goes on.

    strange. no anger, not at all, not at all. just an unease feeling.

    and your family…

    but, i talk about you, or reference you, almost every day; something you sad, something we laughed about, a profound remark you had and even laugh about you, to bring the joy back to the memories.

    you gentle one,
    just a July letter for you. miss you.
    at least this year mark, in a way, lets us celebrate something with you…

    yours

    Comment by for you — July 9, 2008 @ 2:01

  42. laila tov Yariv.

    Comment by for you — July 18, 2008 @ 2:24

  43. happy birthday, Y

    Comment by for you — July 21, 2008 @ 2:59

  44. yarivi,

    happy 40th birthday wherever you might be.

    xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

    Comment by waisenhaus — July 22, 2008 @ 22:19

  45. almost two years have gone by.
    incredible you are not here.

    Comment by for you — May 9, 2009 @ 19:36

  46. Hello Yariv, your work has found me
    your friends have introduced me in some way that i kept reading and reading. i can’t get over what a gracious person you were/are. i hope to know someone such as you again.
    you must feel the devotion from all here. i lost a friend a few years ago and i experienced anger and immense sorrow.
    like the friends who miss you, in the end there was no one to blame, just me with myself. alive even more for the memories and time he made for me in an incredible life, much like you’re loved ones share here. Thank you all for doing this.

    Comment by sherry — October 20, 2009 @ 9:56

  47. Its 2010

    Comment by for you — June 21, 2010 @ 12:01

  48. yarivi, im listening to elliot smith, you recorded it for me, i miss you, why and what and how but i will never know. why and what and how. met yr mum. they are working for you, on you. i dont know what. miss you. take care. xxx

    Comment by waisenhaus — November 19, 2010 @ 0:19

  49. its 2011 almost 2012
    i think you would have been amazed by the changes that occur in this world you left behind.
    i love you dearly.
    will continue to write to you.
    yours

    Comment by for you — November 16, 2011 @ 22:30

  50. Hi, Y. Been trying for long to let you go. But it is not possible. You continue to change my perspective year after year. And so we remain friends, even when you are gone. You are the only one with that kind of capability. Toda raba.

    Comment by J — December 9, 2011 @ 23:24


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